How to be an Original

My five personal core values and how I use them

Compass
On Tuesdays I write about Living my Legend. This section is inspired by The Alchemist and is an account of my journey of living my potential.

This is the first post in this section. I announced it over three weeks ago and it has developed in my mind since then. Maybe it was foresight, but tuning in to my legend and making the inner connection have been on my mind ever since. I have spent time to reconnect and things are becoming very clear. I expect that I have a lot of material for posts, but I will only post them when they are ‘ripe’.

Personal values

I have five personal values that I regard as my core values. They represent the things I want to experience in this life. The first time I actively discovered these personal values was 6 years ago, during an intense session with a guided meditation. At that time I recognized them, but did not know what to do with them and how they could be useful. Click to continue »

Born Sleepy

The past: It took me a while to wake up

I was born in the spring of 1976 in the Netherlands, 10 days late, and sleeping. The hospital did not believe my mother would go into labour and gave her something to calm down. It worked…for me anyway. Caused by my relaxed birth or not, I have adapted a relaxed attitude in life. In my pre-teen years I cruised through life and through school without a sweat. I had a happy time as a kid, and we were outside seeking adventure all the time. Somehow, somewhere halfway along my teen years, I lost interest in stuff. My relaxed attitude gradually turned into passiveness, and I wasted a lot of time on videogames, listening to music, watching tv…mindnumbing entertainment. Not that I was depressed or something, I just wasn’t enthusiastic or passionate about things.

At the end of my schooldays, my parents made it very clear that it was not an option to not go to university. Without having a real passion for something, making a choice that defines your active life for years to follow, is hard. I chose by downselecting from the list of available studies, and came up with Industrial Engineering and Management Sciences. This was broad enough to basically postpone a real decision, and with an acceptable (i.e. low) amount of math (I knew what I didn’t like). However around my 18th birthday some things changed, I started to practice taekwondo, I met my girlfriend Lianne, and I was allowed to drive a car. I actually had passionate feelings about all three of them. But I cruised through my study, still without enthusiasm.

In 1999, I had to finalize my study. This was done by writing a graduation thesis, based on research in a company. This is where I really started to wake up. The people who worked in that company, scared the living daylights out of me. They were unhappy, cynical, unsatisfied, uninvolved and passive. They did not care about their work, and all the joy in their lives (if any) came from the time not at work. This made me feel so sad. I decided then and there that I would not let that happen to me. I actively searched for a job that would encourage me to change towards an active enthusiastic attitude for work. My first job was at Ormit, a network for management development, that hired trainees for two-year jobs with very intensive training and coaching. In my two years, I learned a lot! I owe them a great deal. After this, my life and my carreer have been evolving around actively finding my path, and learning life’s lessons (and boy, it does present a lot of them…).

The present: Awake, and actively creating

Not long ago, I overcame my tendency to avoid or postpone decisions. I finally proposed and married Lianne, the love of my life. Shortly after getting married, we became parents to a wonderful little boy Jesse.

Currently I work as Operations Manager at Adimec Electronic Imaging. Adimec is a fascinating company. Why fascinating? Well for me it’s very ambivalent, it inspires, frustrates, tires and energizes me…all at the same time. I learn a lot, that’s for sure. In the long run, this is not the right job for me, but as long as we create value for eachother it will fit.

Some hints on my circuitry: INFP, enneatype 7, (very) dominantly yellow (profile dynamics), Aries (ascendant Virgo, element Fire) and Dragon (element Fire).

The future: Wide awake, and a catalyst for authentic change

I’m passionate about what it is that makes people achieve greatness, while maintaining their authenticity. This is what my active life in the future will be about, how can I help people in achieving authentic greatness. Authenticity is only part of the equation for me, being passionate about something and striving to be the best you can in that something are equally important parts. My passion is to gather wisdom about these topics, and to help people in their path of discovery and success.